There’s no doubt that dating can be daunting and nerve-wracking experience sometimes. And more often then not, people turn to alcohol to help them feel more relaxed and confident. However, I’m here to say that there are plenty of reasons why not drinking could actually be better for your dating game. You might already prefer the freshness of the morning over the debauchery of the night. Perhaps you’ve gotten into a nasty cycle and are tired of waking up next to someone you barely remember meeting, with a pounding headache and a sinking feeling of regret. Or maybe, you’re simply just ready to take control of your dating life and make better choices. Whichever side of the fence you fall babe, today’s topic is for you. We’ll explore some of the reasons behind choosing the sober road, why they matter and some of the beautiful benefits of morning dates…
One of the more glaringly obvious answers would have to be that overall, we have better decision-making skills. As we know ( most likely through personal experiences ) drinking can impair judgment and cloud decision-making. It’s been known to lower inhibitions, leading you to say or do things that you might not normally do if you were sober. This can include oversharing personal information, making inappropriate comments, or even making physical advances that your date isn’t comfortable with. When aboard the sober train, you are better equipped to make sound decisions about who you date, what you do on dates, and how you behave.
Not drinking can also help you to be more present on your date. When you’re not under the influence of alcohol, you’re obviously better able to focus on your conversation, make eye contact, and really listen to what the other person is saying. You won’t be that annoying human who nods along, feigning interest. You’ll be engaged, which will make your date feel valued and appreciated.
Ultimately, connections will be more authentic. We often talk of being on the same level as someone when dating. Being sober pretty much guarantees that. When we choose not to drink, we have to rely on our most genuine selves to connect with others. And in tern, are more likely to connect with people on a deeper, more authentic level.
Little story time – Very few people know this, but a couple of years back I challenged myself to 6 months sober. I grew up in Australia with an English/Irish heritage. Basically a recipe for alcoholism. And after years and years of having a certain level of cognitive dissonance around drinking, I needed to prove to myself that it wasn’t a crutch. And when I tell you babe that I was the brightest, healthiest, most confident version of myself… So I’m here today to say that not drinking can actually give you a newfound sense of confidence. No more stumbling over your words or accidentally spilling your drink on your date’s shirt. You’ll be sharp as a tack, able to charm your way through any conversation without the fear of slurring or saying something regrettable.
But perhaps most importantly, choosing not to drink sends a powerful message about who you are and what you value. And can definitely change the way you date. You’ll see people differently, flirt differently, handle awkward moments differently… and who knows, maybe that’s exactly what you need to break out of your dating rut and find someone truly special.
Morning Vs Night
Sure, a night out on the town is the preferred method for good times to be had… but morning dates are the unsung hero of the dating world. And have their own unique charm and advantages. One of the things I actually love most about FROME is that we open up the dating game to go beyond a typical evening drink. From their casual and low-pressure nature to their flexibility and affordability, there are plenty of benefits to choosing a coffee date over a nighttime date…
First off, let’s talk about the obvious – breakfast food. Who in this day and age doesn’t love themselves some breakfast food? It’s arguably the best meal of the day, and having it with your date can be a fun and delicious experience. Whether you opt for pancakes, eggs benny, or a classic B&E combo, breakfast dates offer a wide variety of tasty options while diving deep with a potential someone.
Another perk of morning dates is the natural lighting. I know it sounds silly and slightly superficial. But there’s something about a sunny morning that puts people in a good mood, and being out in nature can be a refreshing change of pace from the typical dimly lit restaurant or bar scene.
Morning dates also offer more flexibility in terms of activities. Instead of just going out for drinks or dinner, you can do a wide range of activities together. Go for a hike, take a yoga class, visit a farmer’s market, or even go on a bike ride. The options are endless, and it’s a great way to try something new with your date.
Another amazing benefit is that they can be less expensive than the night. When you’re going out to dinner or drinks, the bill can add up quickly. But a cute lil’ coffee date is typically much cheaper, which can be a relief if you’re on a budget. Plus, you can always offer to buy your date’s coffee as a sweet gesture without breaking the bank.
Lastly, they can offer more opportunities for conversation and getting to know each other. When you’re at a restaurant or bar, there can be a lot of distractions – the music, the ambiance, the people around you. But when you’re at a coffee shop or a delicious local juciery, it’s just the two of you and your drinks. This can create a more intimate atmosphere where you can focus on each other and have deeper, more meaningful conversations.
So there you have it my friends. While it may seem counterintuitive at first, choosing not to drink can actually be a smart move for your dating game. So next time you’re heading out on a first date, consider skipping the drinks and see where it takes you. Who knows – you might just find that true love is waiting for you on the other side of a green juice. Until next time x
HJG for First Rounds On Me