March is here, queens—and you know what that means: it’s officially Women’s Month. And I thought - “What better way to kick off our favorite month of female empowerment than dropping a much needed truth bomb?”

We've been getting it all wrong. Dating, that is.

I want you to be so fucking honest with yourself—how many times has dating felt less like an exciting adventure and more like an exhausting Olympic sport designed solely to win someone else's approval? Less like genuinely getting to know another person, and more like desperately trying to impress a panel of imaginary judges, hoping they’ll hold up that perfect "10"?

Another truth bomb: at some point, every woman has that oh shit moment—sometimes it creeps up slowly, other times it hits like a double espresso on an empty stomach—where she finally pauses and asks herself: "Wait a minute… why am I bending over backward trying to get picked instead of being the one doing the choosing?" And I really, genuinely hope that right now—this very moment—is that wake-up call for you.

Because when women start dating for themselves, everything flips. Your energy becomes magnetic, your confidence shoots through the roof, and suddenly you're not chasing—you’re attracting.

Welcome to the era of dating that finally puts you first. Pour a generous glass of your favorite wine (or mocktail), get cozy, and let’s dive into why dating for yourself is the biggest power move you'll ever make…

Why We’ve Been Getting It Wrong

Well, because many of us were conditioned to see dating as a performance. Be the cool girl. The laid-back, effortlessly gorgeous, zero-maintenance woman who laughs at his jokes (even when they aren’t funny) and never, ever texts first. We’ve been taught to prioritize being liked over asking-  “Do I actually like him?”

And that, my beautiful friends, is exactly where the problem lies. Dating for validation blinds you to red flags, silences your intuition, and pressures you into ignoring your true preferences. It forces you to mold yourself into an unfamiliar, diluted version of you—one who agrees a little too quickly, laughs a bit too eagerly, and quietly compromises to avoid rocking the boat. Instead of bringing your whole, vibrant, authentic self to the table, you end up playing a character, losing touch with what you truly want and deserve.

So… are ready for your dating glow-up? Below are 5 surefire steps to help you date for yourself, reclaim your confidence, and attract the authentic connections you've always deserved...

Step One: Ditching the “Pick Me” Energy

You know what’s exhausting? Worrying about whether or not he likes you. When you shift your mindset to “Do I even like him?”, it’s game over for mediocre men everywhere. Instead of twisting yourself into a pretzel trying to impress someone, you start observing: Is he actually kind? Does he add value to my life? Do I feel good around him?

Suddenly, you’re not waiting to be chosen—you’re doing the choosing. And trust me, that energy? Unstoppable.

Step Two: Dating Like a CEO, Not an Intern

I have an entire blog coming on this soon, but imagine running a company (in this case, your own damn life) and hiring someone for a major role. Would you pick the guy who keeps rescheduling interviews, sends vague “wyd?” emails at 2 AM, and expects you to do all the heavy lifting? Absolutely not.

The same logic applies to dating. Stop over-investing in men who aren’t even showing up to the job interview—aka the ones who breadcrumb, ghost, or refuse to make actual plans. Your time is valuable. Treat it that way.

Step Three: Romanticize Your Life, Not Just the Relationship

Women are so good at pouring their energy into relationships—but what happens when you start channeling that energy into yourself first? Your life becomes the romance. You plan stunning solo dates. You flirt with yourself in the mirror. You stop waiting for someone else to make life exciting and start doing it for damn yourself.

The best part? When you do this, the right kind of people start gravitating toward you. Because nothing is more attractive than someone who’s already fulfilled.

Step Four: Walking Away Like a Queen

One of the most powerful things you can do? Know when to leave. Stop over-explaining your worth. Stop sticking around just to “prove” you’re good enough. If someone isn’t meeting your standards, wish them well and move on.

When you start seeing walking away as a power move instead of a loss, you realize how much time you’ve wasted entertaining situations that never deserved you in the first place.

Step Five: Falling in Love with the Right Person—YOU

The glow-up of all glow-ups? Loving yourself so deeply that dating becomes an extension of your joy—not the source of it. When you shift from seeking validation to simply enjoying the process, the entire experience changes. You stop settling. You stop over-explaining. You stop chasing.

Instead, you sit back, sip your drink, and let the people who actually deserve you come to you.

Because that’s the thing about a woman who dates for herself—she doesn’t chase. She attracts.

The Best Love Story Starts With You

So this Women’s Month, consider this your official permission slip to rewrite your dating narrative and start date differently. Make it about your joy, your standards, your excitement. Because, honey, a woman who knows exactly what she wants is simply unstoppable.

And here’s the best part: You don’t have to figure it out alone. First Round’s On Me was built with this exact energy in mind. We put the power back in your hands. Want to take the lead and plan the date yourself? Go for it. Prefer to let him step up and show some effort? That works too. We’re all about options, because real empowerment means choosing what works for you.

Your dating life shouldn’t just happen to you—it should happen for you. So, if you’re ready to ditch the games and start dating with intention, FROM is here to make sure you actually get to the good part. Until next time x

Now, tell me: What’s been your biggest dating glow-up moment? Drop it in the comments.