Ah, the holiday season—a time for twinkling lights, cozy sweaters, and...breakups? If you’ve been through a breakup around Thanksgiving or know someone who has, you might have encountered the infamous phenomenon known as the “Turkey Dump.” This relatively unknown term has started to gain fame as the pre-holiday breakup trend, leaving many single just as the stuffing’s being prepped. But why does this happen? And how did breaking up before the holidays become such a thing? Grab a glass of wine, and let’s dive in…

Why Do So Many People Break Up Before the Holidays?

Relationships and the holidays are a tricky combination, and there are some very real reasons why people find themselves calling it quits at this time of year..

1. Avoiding the Family Questioning Marathon
   Nothing quite says “pressure” like bringing someone home to meet the family over Thanksgiving. The Turkey Dump often comes down to the dread of holiday introductions: your aunt’s grilling questions, your mom’s quiet but pointed glances, and your cousin’s unfiltered interrogation skills. For some, it's just easier to say goodbye than face the inevitable scrutiny.

2. The “Is This Serious?” Reality Check
   The holidays often act as a relationship reality check. When people start imagining their significant other in family photos or exchanging holiday gifts, they may realize they’re not quite ready for that level of commitment. And with New Year’s resolutions and fresh starts around the corner, it’s not uncommon for people to reevaluate and decide they want to begin the year solo.

3. Saving on Gift Expenses
   Let’s be real, the holidays can be a costly affair. Gifts, travel, and events quickly add up, and if someone is on the fence about their relationship, the thought of shelling out for a “maybe” might tip the scales towards a breakup. It’s brutal, I know, but the thought here is “Why spend time and money on something if you're not sure it’ll last through December?”

4. Pre-Resolution Cutoff
   As people start to think about what they want out of the upcoming year, many decide it’s time to hit refresh and head into the new year with a clean slate. Ending a relationship now gives them the chance to focus on themselves or meet someone new, without carrying any romantic baggage into the next year.

Turning the Turkey Dump into an Opportunity

So…maybe you’ve been “Turkey Dumped.” I’m truly sorry babe, but shit happens! First things first—let’s put it out there: being single over the holidays isn’t just survivable; it can actually be a blast! Just think about it: no awkward in-law small talk, no overthinking what gift says “I’m serious but not too serious,” and best of all, no sharing your holiday leftovers! Now, instead of stressing about relationship obligations, you’re free to revel in all the cozy, festive fun with zero strings attached. Here are a few solid reasons to fully embrace your newfound freedom this season and make the holidays all about you!

• Rediscover Your Traditions: Forget the endless planning debates and holiday compromises. This year, it’s all about your rules and your plans—dive into the season on your own terms! Now you can create brand-new traditions or revisit the ones you love, with no one to say otherwise.

• Flirt with Freedom: Perhaps the best part about being single during the season? All the festive mingling, mistletoe moments, and spontaneous conversations. You never know—maybe you’ll meet someone special, or maybe you’ll just have fun embracing the no-pressure, single life vibe.

• Focus on Family and Friends: Sometimes a breakup is the best time to appreciate the other loves in your life. The real holiday magic comes from the love you share with family and friends. This season, soak up the joy of spending time with the people who truly make it special—no plus-one needed. It’s all about giving love where it counts!

• Download FROM: And if you’re ready to dive head first back into the dating pool, why not try FROM? Our app focuses on making real connections IRL, so you can meet someone who values genuine, face-to-face interactions. The holidays are the perfect time to try something new, and FROM’s focus on genuine connections will add an extra sprinkle of holiday magic to your season. So go ahead, download FROM, and let’s make this season a little more exciting!

At the end of the day, I know a breakup before the holidays can be tough, but it also offers a unique opportunity for growth. Whether you’ve been “turkey dumped” or just wondering what all the fuss is about, remember that the holidays are about gratitude, connection, and, yes, a bit of indulgence. So, pour a glass of wine, savor a slice of pie, download FROM and let the Turkey Dump be a funny memory instead of a roadblock. Until next time x

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